Tips for both parents
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Effective co-parenting often requires clear, structured communication. Many parents find it helpful to use court-recognized co-parenting applications to manage schedules, messages, and shared information. These tools can reduce misunderstandings, create consistency, and help keep communication focused on the children.
Visitation monitors are assigned as neutral third parties. Their role is not to take sides or act as advocates for either parent, but to ensure visits occur safely and in accordance with the court order. Viewing the monitor as a professional support, rather than an adversary, can help visits proceed more smoothly.
Parents are encouraged to follow the guidance of their attorneys regarding court orders, communication, and any proposed changes to visitation. The visitation provider cannot offer legal advice or modify court-ordered terms. Questions about legal strategy or changes to orders should be directed to legal counsel or the court.
Supervised visitation can be difficult and uncomfortable at times. Often there are hurt and angry feelings toward the other parent. It may also seem impossible to have a positive attitude about supervised visitation. Remember that both of you care about your children and that children benefit from having two parents in their lives whenever possible.
Tips for Visiting Parents
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Being with your children in the presence of a monitor may feel uncomfortable at first. This is common. If the process feels emotionally challenging, you may find it helpful to speak with a mental health professional or a parent support group. All Smiles' monitors do thier best to keep visits feeling as authentic and natural as possible.
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During visits, focus on your relationship with your children. Patience and consistency are important.
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Plan age-appropriate activities in advance
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Bring any items required by the court order (snacks, sunscreen, etc.)
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Follow redirection calmly if provided by the monitor
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Avoid questioning children about the other parent or home life
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Keep good-byes brief, calm, and positive
Tips for Custodial Parents
Supervised visitation can also be a challenge for you. Typically you have been taking care of your children’s everyday needs and have a routine for yourself and your family. Supervised visitation can sometimes feel like 1 more responsibility. Of course, you also have concerns and questions about the visits and how they will affect your children. This is understandable. In difficult times you may also want to talk to a mental health professional or find a support group where you can talk about your feelings.
Here are a few suggestions that might help you in the process:
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Read the court order.
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Explain to your children where and when the visits will take place.
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Have your children ready with anything they will need during the visits.
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Arrive on time to drop off and pick up your children.
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Reassure your children that you support them in having a pleasant visit.
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Avoid quizzing your children about the visit.
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Avoid making your children messengers to the other parent.
